• April 2008
    S M T W T F S
     12345
    6789101112
    13141516171819
    20212223242526
    27282930  
  • Categories

Changes

are coming.  I like change sometimes.  At other times I am change resistant.

Right now, I’m feeling change resistant and a little nervous.

For the next few years (beginning mid-May), XH will be stationed nearby, within a two hour drive from here.  I would like to have a good co-parenting relationship that is healthy and positive for all involved, especially for the kids.  I don’t know if it’s possible, though.

During the past seven or eight years (since before the divorce), there’s been no co-parenting.  It’s just been me doing the parenting and XH jumping in and out of the kids’ lives at his convenience.  I feel an icky, jumbled feeling in the pit of my stomach when I think about it, so I’ve been avoiding sharing for the last couple of weeks.

I don’t have high hopes, but am willing to keep an open mind.  I will keep you posted.

2 Responses

  1. I hate change as well, and I hope this change is for the better and your XH, stays consistent in your daughter’s life, because that is what it is all about. This is not about your XH and I hope he realizes that.

    Can you tell him directly what you are feeling or perhaps send him this link? 🙂

    Hoping things work out.

  2. Thanks, Karen. I’ve thought about sharing the link for my blog with him and have not yet. The kids need him to be a consistent part of their lives. It’s been hard on them for him to be in & out so much. They all show it in different ways. Oldest daughter (14) won’t talk to him or about him. Son (13) is very angry towards his dad and me, since his dad is not around. Youngest daughter (11) misses him a lot and makes excuses for him.

    I’m not sure that XH realizes that it’s about the kids and what they need.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: